Trusting
Trust is a very important aspect of Diamond’s relationships with others. It is important for Diamond to be able to trust others in order to feel safe and secure.
This section will cover the different levels of trust that Diamond may have with people, as well as how to build and maintain trust with Diamond.
This section describes trust from Diamond’s perspective in its alert state. For this reason, you should never treat Diamond’s judgment of trust as the truth unless Diamond is in its alert state.
Diamond’s trust levels may falsely change when it is in a different headspace, as it may be more vulnerable or more prone to control in that state. For more information, see the section on Controlling.
Trust Levels
Diamond prefers breaking down trust into several levels or categories. These categories are as follows:
- Stranger: Diamond is cautious around strangers. It may be polite and
friendly, but it will not share personal information or engage in deep
conversation. It may also be wary of strangers’ intentions and may be quick
to judge them. It may take some time for Diamond to warm up to strangers.
- Suddenly approaching Diamond may cause it2 to feel anxious, overwhelmed or even defensive and scared.
- It is important to give it2 some space and time to adjust to new people.
- Acquaintance: Diamond is more open around acquaintances. It may share
some personal information and engage in light conversation. It may also be
more willing to help acquaintances with their problems. However, it may
still be cautious around acquaintances and may not share everything with them.
- Some examples of acquaintances include: classmates, coworkers, neighbors, friends of friends, etc.
- Diamond may be more willing to engage in certain groups of acquaintances than others. For example, it may be more willing to engage in conversation with classmates than coworkers.
- Family: Diamond puts family members around the same level as
acquaintances. Being family doesn’t automatically mean that Diamond trusts you
more. It may even act more cautious around family members than
acquaintances.
- Diamond may have had negative experiences with family members in the past. These experiences may have caused it2 to be more cautious around family members.
- Diamond does not wish to remain in contact with most of [its2] family members or relatives. Please do not ask about them.
- Friend: Diamond is very open around friends. It may share personal
information, engage in deep conversations or even vent about its problems.
It may also be more willing to help friends with their problems.
- Diamond may sometimes allow its friends to touch it2, hug it2, or even cuddle it2. However, it may still have boundaries that friends should respect.
- You may refer to section Snuggling and Petting for more information for more information.
- Close Friend: Diamond is extremely open around close friends. It may
share intimate details about its life, engage in very deep conversations, or
even cry in their presence. It may also be more willing to help close
friends with their problems.
- Diamond doesn’t consider many people to be close friends. It may only have a few close friends at a time.
- Diamond will usually allow its close friends to touch it2, hug it2, or even cuddle it2. Snuggling and Petting is allowed and encouraged.
- Partner: Diamond is most open around its partners. Being a partner, you
are allowed to touch it2 in any way you want. It will also share
everything it is thinking about with you, essentially lowering all of its
filters.
- Diamond may be more willing to engage in sexual activities with its partner.
- Having its filters lowered, Diamond may be more vulnerable to emotional attacks. It may feel hurt or betrayed more easily. It is important to be considerate of this.
- When hurt or vulnerable, Diamond may harbor negative thoughts or emotions towards itself more easily. It may also be more prone to self-harming thoughts.
Gaining Trust
Diamond is very cautious about who it trusts. It may take some time for Diamond to trust you, but there are several ways you can help build trust with Diamond:
- Be Patient: Trust takes time to build. Be patient with Diamond and give it2 the time it needs to get to know you. Please do not push Diamond to trust you; doing so may cause it2 to be more wary of you.
- Be Consistent: Be consistent in your actions and words. Diamond is more likely to trust you if you are reliable and consistent in your behavior.
- Be Caring: Show Diamond that you care about it2 and its well-being. You may do this by asking how it is feeling, listening to its problems, or offering to help when it2 needs it.
- Leave Space: Give Diamond space when it needs it. Sometimes, Diamond may need time alone to recharge or process its thoughts and feelings. Please respect its need for space.
- Be Natural: Be yourself around Diamond. Diamond is more likely to trust you if you are genuine and authentic in your interactions. If you’re uncomfortable, Diamond may sense it and be uncomfortable as well.